Comments on: e-rejection

By: Cygnoir

Cygnoir — Wed, 25 Aug 2004 17:58:31 +0000

I have indeed been skeezed upon, and in the event that “‘I’m not interested in meeting anyone tonight, sorry’ just doesn’t cut it”, I take out my mobile and dial 911. Seriously. I don’t fuck around with people who do not respond to “no” as a valid answer. It only took one terrifying incident for me to learn that lesson. Thus, I completely second cirocco’s comments.

So far as Jason’s suggestion: I’m in! Who else is with me?

By: Ryan

Ryan — Mon, 23 Aug 2004 17:23:34 +0000

I’ll admit that I’ve never been skeezed upon, but I do find the idea of faking someone out distasteful. In particular the public ridicule. That’s just sick. If particularly pressed for an email address, I’d go with notinterested@buggeroff.com, but that’s me.

By: Ighnot

Ighnot — Sun, 22 Aug 2004 19:21:43 +0000

Mean-spirited, oh-so-fucking-clever bullshit for shallow people.

Welcome back. I’m in a hotel room in Geilenkirchen waiting to leave for the States! I’m about to embark on a vacation of my own.

By: aldahlia

aldahlia — Sun, 22 Aug 2004 12:27:15 +0000

There’s a phone version of that same service. And, ditto what Allura said. Some people are completely insane.

By: Jason

Jason — Sun, 22 Aug 2004 02:38:46 +0000

I think we should use this as an opportunity for a creative writing exercise. Write the strangest, wackiest, perhaps creepiest emails and send them off to papernapkin and see if they get posted to their weblog. I’m totally serious about this.

And if we get called on it, we can just say, “Wow, the service used to fake people out is getting upset about getting faked out? Dear me.” :)

By: Allura

Allura — Sun, 22 Aug 2004 02:01:55 +0000

Obviously none of you have ever been skeezed upon (as in, “I’m not interested in meeting anyone tonight, sorry” just doesn’t cut it) by one of DC’s finest men-on-the-prowl.

I consider papernapkin.net something I would most definitely use when a polite “thanks but no thanks” doesn’t work. And trust me, around here, it’s more often than you’d think.

By: cirocco

cirocco — Sat, 21 Aug 2004 18:21:39 +0000

1. A “papernapkin.com” address written on a napkin looks fake and thus invites the very confrontation one is trying to circumvent;

2. The only reason not to give a polite “I’m not looking to meet anyone, sorry,” to a guy who approaches you in a bar is if you find him somehow intimidating or threatening and don’t want to run the risk of provoking his rage by rejecting him. Isn’t this just risking an even greater display of narcissistic rage, considering both 1, above, and the fact that:

3. Unless you never revisit watering holes, there is a nonzero chance that you will run into the person you rejected again. Since the lad has been not politely let down but also made to feel acutely embarrassed (the site collects followup letters from rejectees and opens them up for public ridicule, so it’s not an innocuous service), I can easily imagine this story ending in an exchange of words that includes “Fucking bitch, think you’re too good for me?”

Bad idea all around.

By: Eva

Eva — Sat, 21 Aug 2004 18:02:59 +0000

Seems like a marketing extension of breaking up with someone via email. I hate it when people think it’s clever to be mean.

Welcome back!

By: Gina

Gina — Sat, 21 Aug 2004 17:41:07 +0000

Bah, that’s just another way to be cruel to people; just another way to continue acting like you’re in high school. If someone really is too shy to say “no” to someone asking for an email addy or phone number, they should just give an incorrect one. No need to be mean.