grazed knees

That Johari/Nohari stuff certainly is thought-provoking, both as the window and the windee.

I drove home today, instead of taking the ferry, just because I felt like it. It took me 40 minutes, door-to-door, instead of 100. I listened to Snow Patrol for a little while, and then I didn’t listen to anything, but practiced being present. The gloaming never fails to amaze me as it encounters the bridge and those first few breaths of the City.

Just now I gave myself a homework assignment: discover the difference between humility and humiliation. I know in my brain there is one, but my heart isn’t quite there yet, and it needs to be for me to be happier, calmer, and less afraid. I would like to know what you think about this, so please leave your thoughts in a comment here.

(And welcome to the world, Rupert. You now share a birthday with someone I admire greatly.)

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Halsted, a/k/a cygnoir, does stuff with words. Her favourite things to do with words are keeping this diary, writing stories, and organising information. She lives in Edinburgh with her husband, two cats, a few gadgets, several fountain pens, and many books.

Posted on 13 Feb 2006 in Diary
  • iplusprinted

    Humility vs. Humiliation. This seems too obvious, but just in case.

    Humility is self-induced, a looking at oneself and consciously choosing the opposite of boastfulness or pride. Sometimes we do this too often, it’s okay to be proud. Humility is a desirable trait, but only in balance with self-love and inner confidence. Too much humility is self-deprecation.

    Humiliation is put upon us by others: a jab, an embarrassment, a belittling. Humiliation is unnecessary cruelty and you should minimize your interactions with people who regularly participate in it. It can be habitual, people belittle others to make themselves feel better. Hopefully most people grew out of this stage in high school.

    So if you are feeling humiliation, look outward for the cause, not inward. If there is no outward cause, then perhaps it’s an overactive case of humility.